Focus on being a godly wife.
I love having one day a week when I get to focus on how to be a better more godly wife. I have so much to learn and so far to grow and these always challenge me to go back to the Word and let the Holy Spirit examine my heart to see where I need to change next.
Let your speech always be with grace, as though seasoned with salt, so that you will know how you should respond to each person. Col 4:6
It is better to live in a corner of a roof Than in a house shared with a contentious woman. Prov 21:9
Speech, communicating, is probably one of the biggest issues in marriage.
How do we communicate with our husbands that is honest yet respectful. Some women think that we should stuff our feelings, but this is not being a HELPmate. On the other hand, being bossy or manipulative is never a godly response.
So how DO we speak to our husbands?
- Without being bossy
Quite often we have VERY definite ideas on how things are supposed to be run in life. And we usually are quick to share what those ideas are. The problem is that we can become bossy and arrogant in our speech. No one wants to be patronized, and speaking to our husbands with that attitude or tone get us NO WHERE in building intimate and respectful communication.
- In a non-confrontational time
If you have serious things to discuss, especially if there is conflict between you, go out for a date. Being away from eager ears of children and away from distractions of TV or newspapers or computers or housework gives greater capacity for focused communications. You really need to put aside all outside distractions so you can seek to settle your hearts on how GOD wants you to work these issues out.
- In prayer
Coming before the Lord and laying down our own agendas and asking for wisdom to see HIS is the best place for us to be and the best place from which to communicate with our husbands.
So what are the areas where YOU need to grow in your communication with your husband? What is a healthy change that you can make to help strengthen your marriage and help honor and respect your husband?