Teaching our boys chivalry

This is not something that is in vogue in our culture today. I love the way the men from New Life Drama Company have been an example to my boys. They treat the girls on their teams with respect and honor and as weaker vessels. Not inferior, but physically weaker.

chivalry - it's all about giving  honor

They:

  • help them into vehicles
  • carry their luggage
  • compliment their outfits
  • watch for them in public to make sure they are not harassed
  • care for their needs

This week, I pulled my back out. So my boys have been doing a lot of lifting and helping me. It’s lovely that they don’t resent it, but are quick to be the physical strength that I lack. I love how they are always checking to see how I’m doing and if I need help. They are quick to offer hands whenever I need it.

Now, we  have a long way to go, but I’m excited that they see this as part of their responsibility. How are YOUR boys working to bless the females in your home?





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23 Comments

  1. I love this post. Chivalry is SO IMPORTANT. I wish more parents worked at teaching this to their children.

    I am amazed that you homeschool 8 children! I homeschool our 5 kids and feel very overwhelmed sometimes; I cannot imagine 8! Great job!!!

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    • Well, I HAVE homeschooled 8…my oldest 4 have graduated already. “You eat the elephant one bite at a time.” That’s MY motto! ;-D

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  2. I too think this is so important, Kate! I love it when I see my boys holding a door open or waiting to sit until the woman in the room sits. They don’t always remember, but are getting better!

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    • But on the other hand, I have a daughter whose been called ‘feminist’ because she won’t wait several minutes for a guy to come and open her door!! ;-D

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  3. What a cutie!

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    • Isn’t he a doll! Thanks for coming by, Margo.

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  4. I want men to be chivalrous, too! My son Tim, although only barely 5 years old, he knows how to offer a tissue when he sees me crying. I will teach him to be chivalrous as he grows up. Thanks for bringing this up, Kate.

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    • Awww, sweet!!!

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  5. I just love that video! So cute! Yes, it is so important to teach such things at a young age!

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    • Yes, I love this video…and so do my boys!!

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  6. Kate…great post! Yay for chivalry!! We have striven to raise our boys to be gentlemen from the get go and have seen the fruits of our labor and the faithfulness of God in this area. Thank you for sharing this at WJIM. Have a fabulous week friend.

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    • Thanks so much, Naomi!

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  7. Such an important reminder and one I am also working on with my grandkids. You’re never too old to teach and they’re never too young to learn, that’s for sure 🙂 Have a blessed and beautiful week!

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    • Good for you, Kaye!

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  8. Kate…I really love this post! I never thought of what I was teaching my son as chivalry when I was teaching him to open the mall doors for his sister and her friend. To me it was just something boys/men do. Labeling it chivalry makes it all the more lovely…romantic even. 🙂 I do hope your back is improving! I have been praying for you.

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    • Gina, I’m so glad to give a name to your good manners teaching!! ;D I’m doing better, thanks so much.

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  9. So important! My husband was raised to be a gentleman, chivalrous. We have 3 boys and it’s easy to teach them those important things when they see their father doing them…like opening doors, letting me walk through first, emptying trash, etc.

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    • Being raised by a chivalrous dad makes it so much easier to raise chivalrous sons.

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  10. So precious! I have two teenage boys and we are still working on this.

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    • Great job, Laura!

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  11. I have seen links to this post all over Twitter. 🙂 And it is an EXCELLENT post. I have two boys…it’s a bit soon to be teaching them this – but I remember my mom teaching my brother table manners, to stand when a woman enters the room, to pull her chair out for her at the dinner table and open the door for her. You can bet my sons will be learning these things as well. Thanks for linking up, I’ll be linking up with you on Tuesdays from now on.

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  12. how about boy to boy and men to men (and woman to woman and woman to man). why general kindness is enough for kindness between same gender or from woman to man, but we need exclusive concept about kindness only from men to only women (and elderly or handiccaped but not for general men). as egalitarian and gay (yes I admit) I personally don’t like chivalrous concept unless it will be really regardless of gender. thank you. I really hope there is no concept that practice kindness regardless of gender was lower than practice chivalry only from men to only women.

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    • I absolutely agree that a hallmark of our lives should be kindness to all.

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