Once we are married and we are back from the honeymoon, the real work continues.

now that you are married

We still feel those loving feelings but we begin to find little things that irritate us. Why doesn’t he put the lid down?  Why does he squeeze the toothpaste from the middle?  Why can he not put his dirty laundry in the hamper? Why is the ice tray always put back empty?  Why, why, why?

Communication in marriage must be always growing and is never something that we can say we have *arrived* at.  A minister once said, “The couple that says, ‘We have arrived’ in the area of communication has just declared death to the marriage.”  And I have to say that this quite probably is true.  We must always be willing to continue to grow and work in this area of our marriage.

I will be sharing some thoughts (also from my book…I need to get that ready for printing!) in future posts on how we can practically make this marriage work well – this is something ALL of us need to work on and continue to grow in, no matter if we’ve been married 1 week or 50 years!

  • How do you communicate with your husband?

    This is one of those very broad questions that is hard to answer. Let me try to give a broad and general answer and then give a few specific incidents to try and zero in on how to build better communication with our husbands.

    The number one thing to remember is that good communication . . .

  • When should we speak and when should we be quiet?

    This is one of the toughest areas for a wife to understand and even if we do, it doesn’t mean we’ll always work it out well because we are also dealing with another person. Some verses to think about:

    It is better to live in a corner of a roof than in . . .

  • Submission: what does it mean?

    Wives, be subject to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife, as Christ also is the head of the church, He Himself being the Savior of the body. But as the church is subject to Christ, so also the wives ought to be . . .

  • Suppose I really believe my husband is making a bad choice?

    This is a very important question and one that most of us have had to deal with at least once in our marriages.

    The king’s heart is like channels of water in the hand of the LORD; He turns it wherever He wishes. (Pro 21:1)

    This verse has been a great comfort . . .

  • I work hard to clean and my husband complains about something.

    I’ve seen women struggle with this type of isssue, even if the exact particulars are different. The problem could very well be that HIS priorities are not YOUR priorities! We were created to be helpers to our husbands. Adam was placed into the Garden and given the task of tending it, but God saw . . .

  • When Our Husbands Are Cranky

    Question: My husband has been in a bad mood a lot lately. I do not know how to respond to him; I try to ignore it and be cheerful but I find myself walking on egg shells at home. When I ask what’s wrong he either says, “Everything” or “Nothing”. This bugs me because . . .

  • What does it REALLY mean to be a helpmate?

    Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” Gen 2:18

    All of the animals created had mates created with them so that they could procreate. But I find it interesting that God did not say that . . .

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