Loving Reproof

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Whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, But he who hates reproof is stupid. Prov 12:1

Poverty and shame will come to him who neglects discipline, But he who regards reproof will be honored. Prov 13:18

He who neglects discipline despises himself, But he who listens to reproof acquires understanding. Prov 15:32

Who loves to be told they’re wrong?

Years ago I was in a church where the pastor came up before the congregation and said, “I want to be a man who loves reproof. So I am asking each and every one of you to come to me and speak truth to me. Tell me when I’m wrong or in sin. I want to be a man of integrity and transparency.”

YIKES!! As a new wife and young-ish believer, this had a powerful impact on how I viewed reproof. In fact, it pushed me to the scriptures to do a study on reproof. And what I found was this:

putting yourself in a place to seek out reproof and correction is considered
wise and godl
y in scripture!

None of us really want to feel the embarrassment of being shown we are wrong – even worse to have our sin exposed. We want to think we are mature and spiritually together (and we especially want others to think we are too). BUT if we want to grow in our walk with the Lord, we NEED to have our flaws and sins brought to light so we can deal with them and walk in surrender to the Lord.

…if we walk in the Light as He Himself is in the Light, we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus His Son cleanses us from all sin. 1 John 1:7

So, do YOU seek out those who will speak truth to your life? Do you look for those who love you enough to be brutally (yet lovingly) honest with you? Or do you surround yourself with “yes women” – with those who will tickle your ears and speak what you want to hear?

For the time will come when they will not endure sound doctrine; but wanting to have their ears tickled, they will accumulate for themselves teachers in accordance to their own desires… 2 Tim 4:3

Seek life: love reproof!

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  1. I do try to be accountable to certain women in my life who are willing to speak truth to me when I’m messing up! It’s not always to hear but I don’t want to stay stagnant and the only way to grow is to take the good with the bad. Good post today, Kate!

    • Amen to that, Terri! Iron sharpening iron is what keeps us growing in our faith! Thanks for linking up each week. You are such a blessing to me.

  2. I want to have a teachable spirit. I appreciate when a sister or brother in Christ would speak the truth to me in love. But if reproof or rebuke is done rudely or unkindly, it usually brings out the worst in the person receiving the reproof. Sometimes also, pride gets in the way of receiving a reproof from a co-believer.

    • Absolutely agree that reproof is to be done in love!! But you have hit the nail on the head with our desire to have a teachable spirit! I have known too many folks along the way whose growth with the Lord was hampered or stunted because they were unwilling to be teachable; to have anyone else reveal their faults or flaws or even mistakes.

      Humility is the key to loving reproof. May we each have that heart of humility!!

  3. I just found your blog over at “Hear it on Sunday; Use it on Monday” Linkup. This was an excellent post and I enjoyed my visit and hope to stop by again. I have *seen* you around 🙂 and I think I have stopped by before. I’ll come again 🙂 soon!!

  4. I am sorry I didn’t get to link up…we were out of town, but I will, hopefully, in the future.
    I have asked friends to keep me accountable and to share when they have seen something that isn’t right or Christ-like in me. It is a difficult thing to do, but it keeps us humble and vulnerable. Good reminder of having a teachable spirit.
    Thank you, Kate!

    • It’s so important to have honest and loving friends who can speak truth into our lives, isn’t it?! Blessings on you, Jacqueline!

  5. This is powerful. I wish I could say I was this humble….I try to be, but fail more than I succeed. Thank you so much for linking up! I enjoy reading your articles.


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