Kitten dilemma

I am not an animal person. I tell my family, “I do children, I don’t do pets.” I don’t like cats and don’t prefer dogs. My daughter was given 2 fish once many many years ago, along with a Little Mermaid fish tank. She kept forgetting to feed the fish and after a couple of months, I stopped reminding her. 15 months later, the tank was a swamp, but surprisingly not smelly!! I had completely forgotten all about it. But the fish WERE STILL ALIVE!!

When we finally got around to taking care of them and cleaning the tank, the goldfish were COMPLETELY WHITE! The man at the pet store said they were old, it was like grey hair. But within 3 days of cleaning the tank and finally feeding them again, they died. Must have been the shock — I’m not sure which was more shocking: the state of the tank before we cleaned it OR the fact that we actually DID clean it!!

So, that was our last foray into pet ownership. Until a stray white very young kitten followed my daughter home the other day. She, the kitten, is very affectionate and sweet. She climbs on us, is friendly and not afraid at all. I have been so taken with her that I have been tempted to actually keep her.

But then I realized:

  • she needs to be trained to use the litter box (I don’t even know how to potty train a child!)
  • she would need to be spayed/neutered (whatever you do to a girl cat)
  • she would need to be declawed
  • she may have fleas
  • she likes ME and sits on ME and skulks around under MY feet
  • we cannot afford any of these things, let alone her food
  • she smells and I am very sensitive to smells

So, unfortunately for my children, it looks as though the faint hope for keeping this cat has gone the way of the Dodo! They are sad. Part of me is sad too. BUT I still have my children!





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  1. Katie thanks for hosting this and sending an email reminder. I’ve linked up my Monday feature – Who Home Schools. I figure that each week when a parent explains why the home school their child that is an act of love. If not…let me know and I will not link it again in the future. Happy Day!

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    • Savannah, that is a PERFECT post for this link-up! Please come on back and join the party – I enjoy your blog!

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  2. Please take her to a cat shelter if you don’t keep her. She’ll be adopted quickly. Cats are actually not as much trouble as you think. The spay surgery is not astronomically expensive (some clinics even do them for free). I would have a hard time giving up the kitten, if I were you. She’s such a cutie.

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    • Tracy, we actually have a family lined up to take her if no one responds in the next day or so to our flyers. It will be hard to give her up, particularly for my children, but I’m sure it will be best for her. Thanks so much for the encouragement!!

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  3. Both my husband and I grew up with a dog. We’d like to get one, but plan to wait until the children are old enough to take care of it so it isn’t extra work for us! I think cats are cute, but am allergic! 🙂

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    • Jenni, I hear you…I’m so not into the extra work!!

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  4. we just got a puppy last weekend…..this dog provides endless play time for my kids…and is a welcome new addition. they are taking care of the training, walking and feeding so far. I think a cat is even easier?!

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    • All I keep thinking about is the extra $$. And of course, I don’t want to hurt her by tripping over her! ;-D

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  5. I vote keep her but you know why! I have my own menagerie going on here. 😉 She’s adorable!

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    • Terri, my darling friend…YOUR VOTE DOESN’T COUNT!! You are just ‘slightly’ biased on the animal side! 😀 But yes, she is really cute.

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  6. That’s hilarious! Still have your children – yes I hope SO!!! We’ve had the same dilemma recently. Found 3 abandoned kittens under our shed. One with no back feet. One with a missing leg above the knee. And one so weakly and sick – but with all legs, that eventually died (with vet care and all)… So thankful for a nearby animal rescue who took up their cause – relieving me of the burden (and the chaos of keeping 3 y/o’s hands from strangling them)!!! Someday maybe we’ll have a kitten. Or not.

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    • LOL! Sarah, I figure I have a choice: animals or children. I’ll keep the children! 😀

      How absolutely dreadful to find those poor kittens. Glad the animal rescue took them. Just played with her outside…she loves to climb and sit around my neck. It feels like a fur stole!

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  7. Oh, Kate! We’re exactly the same with regard to pets! I don’t like cats and I don’t prefer dogs either. I hate fleas and ticks. But my kids, they are a natural with pets. They had had dogs but 2 were given up to adoption, and again another 2 died (1 was bitten by a bigger dog, the other one died of sickness). I wanted to spare them the hurt of losing their pets so we decided not to have anymore. But last Easter, we gave them rabbits – 1 white and 1 beige. Oh, they loved them! Maybe we’ve learned and improved a lot in “pet management” for the rabbits are thriving and happy! Because of that, we bought another one, a black one.

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    • Well, you are way ahead of me, Rina! And a brave woman, if I may say so!! 😉

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  8. Well, I think you’re making the right decision! Animals ARE expensive. I’m sure the other family will love her just as much as you guys do and you can visit without money out of your pocket or smell in your house or stepping in an accident when you get out of bed! He, he.

    Karen in TN

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    • Karen…BLESS YOU girlfriend!!! You understand. 😀

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  9. hey sis not sure what happen here I wasn’t able to link up with you on this Tuesday…How have you been? Was your weekend a good one? It has been awhile but I am good…Have a bless day my dear

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    • Desiray…I had another gal who had problems linking up today as well. I think things were running slow and it went to default “error message”. I’m doing well and I love listening to your messages. I put them on when I’m cleaning so I listen and tidy! 😉

      Thanks for stopping by, dear!

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  10. I was once like that, but when our dear neighbor went to the nursing home and her cat had nowhere else to go, because we feel pity on her, we did adopted her and now a baby in our house:) Dropping by from ” A beauty in his grip”

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    • Joy, you are a better neighbor than I am! We shipped our little kitten off to a friend’s house. We really enjoyed her while she was here, but I’m really enjoying having my house back! 😀 Thanks for stopping by.

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  11. Our sweet kitten was killed on Sunday and while I am not a big fan of cats, we are in the process of getting another. My girls LOVE them, so I feel your pain!

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    • So Kasey, you want a lovely little white one?? 😉

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  12. Yup, sure do!

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    • 😀 Too bad you didn’t live in rural IL! LOL

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  13. I am not much of an animal person either (though I do love me a big dumb dog… outside.)
    Amanda

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    • 😀 There are just some animals who grab our hearts!

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  14. Kate, if you were any where in the state of TX i’d take that baby off your hands! we have always had pets around until about 6 years ago when we had to put our beloved border collie, Buck, down. no pets since. i always said once i retired i’d be the cat lady, with lots of them around. but none so far. and that’s ok, there’s 7 grandchildren to be cat lady to. My daughter has a big ole black lab who we call greybeard now, but his name is Elvis, he is totally untrainable, barks at everything and thinks everyone and every dog is his friend. unfortunately some dogs do not share his feelings. I have always loved cats and tolerated dogs, but this old greybeard I “get”. they are in colorado and when i arrive at the door he is beside himself, but a gentleman with me for the most part and waits until my hands are free and i sit down to get his love pat. in the winter he crawls upon my feet and keeps them warm when I visit. I do think i will actually cry when he’s given his last bark. Crazy huh?

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    • Nancy, sounds like greybeard has a warm place in your heart (and on your feet)…I completely get that!

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  15. Hope you can find a loving home for the sweet kitty.

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    • Yeah, a gal from my church will take her if her owners don’t contact me in another day or so.

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  16. My sister Peggy and her family adopted a cat which they named Truffles. At first they weren’t going to keep her but the kids adored her so now Truffles is a member of the family. Peggy said she would love those her children love, good practice for loving a daughter or a son in law!!! Patsy from HeARTworks

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    • Patsy, your sister is a “better man than I am, Gunga Din.” 😀

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  17. Kate, I feel for you. They are SO cute, and you can convince yourself they are not that costly AS LONG AS they are healthy (after the initial shots)and you can afford the litter. But they are a LOT of work (can’t emphasize that enough – with the litter box, and all that hair to sweep up). Sometimes its enough to be able to wash the dishes, for me! But I am a sucker for animals, having had ten at one time as recently as 2 years ago. We are currently “down” to 6… 2 dogs (ages 10 and 3), 2 cats (ages 10 and 8), 1 indoor rabbit (age 6), and 1 fish (age 2). My sister-in-law just offered me a kitten today – I said an adamant NO! I am SO proud of myself 🙂

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    • Lori, I confess I was vacillating but your comment plunged me back into reality and away from just her cuteness. A friend is picking her up today after church. It’s been fun but I’ll be glad when she goes. Good for you on the NO to the kitten!! 😉

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  18. Kate…sooo…I have three dogs (one which just joined our family one month ago) and one cat. Yes, you are right on all points (except we chose not to declaw our cat, just train her) but we love our pets dearly and have always had them. Oh, my son has fishes, too. Despite all the work that comes with them, we couldn’t imagine life without them. But I’m glad you made the decision that was right for you and that you found her a good home. :o) SO glad to always have you link up friend.

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    • Naomi, I always admire people who have animals. We had a beautiful collie growing up that I loved and always assumed I’d have dogs. But a home without animals has just become easiest for me! The kitten was fun while we had her, though. Have a great day, dear!

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