Friend’s Post: Busy at Home

One of the things on my heart for 2014 is to build community on my blog. I’m not looking for large numbers, I’m looking to build our relationships with one another. Part of the beauty of the body of Christ is what we can be and do for one another; to strengthen each other in our lives and walks of faith. So I am starting a new feature this year. I am opening up my blog to guests friend’s posts! If any of you have a message you would like to share, please contact me and I’d love to talk to you about it! Right now, I have several friends (some old, some new) whose thoughts I am excited to share here with you!

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Today I am blessed to share a post from my new friend Patty Scott. I hope that you will give her some sweet encouragement in the comments here and that you’ll have the chance to visit her lovely blog as well.


Busy at Home

Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. ~ Titus 2:3

We hear, sometimes, this talk about Titus 2 women.

Sometimes I have heard grumbling about why there aren’t more of them around and why they aren’t doing what God asks them to do. We long for this guidance and input. God designed us to pour out into our families and then, at a certain stage of life, to turn and pour into others so that they may be blessed with our wisdom: the hard-earned wisdom of experience.

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As a mom and wife I have walked some hard roads.

I have gone through highs and lows with my husband and my children. In all these experiences I have learned much. I have learned as much about what doesn’t work as I have about what does.

I am in a unique position. My husband and I were married when I was 30 years old. We wanted to have children right away and assumed we would, but there were complications and it was more than four years later that I got pregnant, so I was 35 at the time we had our first son. Seven years after my first son was born, God gave us the best surprise. My second son was born when I was 42 years old. Today our “peers” in this same stage of life are often in their 20s and 30s. My husband will be 50 this year and we have a five-year old. We are “mature” for the life we have. (On good days we live up to that maturity).

Being older parents of younger children gives us some unique insights and blessings we wouldn’t have if we had married younger and had our children right away. We have more life experience and we have more patience and wisdom than we had years ago. We also have a deeper walk with God and we have perspective. So, I’m a Titus 2 woman with younger children.

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When I recently reread this Scripture, I was thinking about the women who have poured into my life.

I did not grow up in a Christian home, though I went to church as a child, so I don’t have a Christian woman in my family who is a Titus 2 woman to me. God has faithfully sent others to provide my need for “spiritual mothering.” Scripture seems to call all older women to reach beyond their own genetic family and pour out into God’s family. God specifically tells us how we are to pour into younger women’s lives in several ways.

First of all, we pour into lives by the way we live. The temptation always comes to preach what we know is good whether we are living it or not. But, God reminds us here that our loudest testimony and instrument of instruction will be our very lives. We are to guard our tongue – and behind the tongue we are to guard our heart so that we don’t judge and cut down others. The women looking to us for guidance must see that we are trustworthy and loving, not slandering and back-stabbing. We are also not to be addicted to much wine. Isn’t it interesting that of all the traits God could highlight here, He emphasizes these two temptations: slander and drunkenness? If we are going to teach women to be self-controlled, we need to first live lives of self-control. We are to teach what is good by our words and our deeds.

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God says, “then” … Then, when we are living a life that is worth emulating, we can teach younger women to love their husbands and their children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands. God spoke to me last year about being busy at home.

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In this world it is so easy to be busy. We can be busy about so many things. Our busyness can distract us from God and from His voice and His purposes in our lives. But, God wants us busy in one way – busy at home.

We need to keep the home fires burning and that will surely keep us busy.

God knows we are tempted to get busy with everything but the home. A peace-filled life comes with saying “no” to many of the external opportunities in this season when our children are young and our husbands are away at work. We need to be busy at home. (This doesn’t mean we never take commitments outside the home, it means we prioritize our time in such a way that the home is our high calling and we are present in the home to meet the needs of those who depend upon us there first and foremost).

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And why, why do we teach all this to younger women? God always has His eye on us and then outward towards others. We live this way and we teach these things so that the Word of God may not be maligned. When we live rightly, we are the Bible for others to read. Our lives shout His goodness and greatness by the very way we live as wives, mothers and homemakers. What a high calling indeed! When people see us living lives dependent upon Him, content in our homes, loving our husbands and children, their very soul knows that this is a good and right way to live and they long to know the God we serve. We won’t do this perfectly and we don’t do it on our own power, but through Him and with the support of older, godly, Titus 2 women, we are empowered to live out this life of love.

 

Patty Scott

 

Married to her beloved surfer husband, she educates at home with her two precocious boys who are the joys of my life. Patty is inspired by: Charlotte Mason, Her mentors are Kathy, Dallas Willard, A.W. Tozer, C.S. Lewis and Francois Fenelon. She is devoted to Jesus. Patty writes to inspire and bless by sharing the real, the beautiful and the reaching of my own heart. Patty blogs at: Hearts Homeward

 

 

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