Emotions – good, bad or neutral

How do you handle your emotions? Do you feel like you are an emotional basket case? Do you feel like you are emotionally empty? Do you feel like your emotions define you? Have you been told that as a woman you just need to get over your emotions?

Let’s look at a few things together.

Emotions are part of the creation.

We are made in the image of God. Part of that involves love and compassion, mercy and joy. These are all emotions and no one thinks they are bad things. They are part of being made in God’s image. God is an emotional God and the fact that we have emotions is because of who HE is. The problems we have in our lives are not because we EXPERIENCE emotions, the problems come from how we EXPRESS emotions.

Over the years I’ve found that there are 3 ways we generally handle our emotions – all of which are unhealthy. And there is 1 way we can handle our emotions and the only way that can actually result in growth and healing in our lives.

We generally either:

  • stuff
  • stir
  • store

If we stuff our emotions, we pretend they don’t exist.

We hold them in very tight check, thinking that we are keeping them under control. All we are doing is holding them down. Think of a ball that is being held under water. When you finally let it go, it BURSTS forth with far more force than it took to hold under…bringing destruction in its wake.

If we stuff our emotions, we pretend they don't exist. If we stir up our emotions, we make them bigger than they are.

We practice them, we tell them to everyone around us, we light a fire under them. Think of a kettle of water; sitting on the stove top it is quiet and sedate but light a fire under it, stir the flame up beneath it and it soon becomes volatile with steam spurting out all over, burning anything in its path.

If we stir up our emotions, we make them bigger than they are.

If we store our emotions, we hold on to them and let them define us.

We convince ourselves we are justified in what we feel and how it makes us think. We tell others we have a right to how we act because of what we feel. We hold on to every hurt we’ve every suffered and take them out to look at and remember. We stay stuck in emotional infancy, never learning that our feelings do not have to dictate our actions. And we push others away by our immaturity and self-centeredness.

If we store our emotions, we hold on to them and let them define us. Surrendering our emotions.

BUT if we surrender our emotions to the Spirit, we come to the only path to wholeness, to health and to peace in our lives. It comes down to allow the Lord to sift and purify what we feel and help us learn to let Him work it through in our hearts. When we learn to surrender, we learn to trust in God’s work, trust in God’s sovereignty and trust in God’s timing in our lives. Our emotions no longer become about how WE are affected, they are transformed into showing us how to respond in God’s love to those around us. We become FREE to walk in the power of the Spirit, rather than in bondage to our flesh.

So, how do you deal with your emotions? Are you a stuffer, a stirrer or a storer?

Or are you on the path to learning surrender and allowing God to transform your emotions into fuel for the Spirit to work through you? If you are like me, you are a combination – but I pray we may each learn to walk in greater surrender to experience His joy!

All Scripture quotations are taken from the NASB.
Unless otherwise indicated, photos from pixaby.com

You May Also Like…

Jehovah – I AM WHO I AM

Jehovah – I AM WHO I AM

Jehovah - the Great I AM God introduced Himself to Moses back in Exodus 3:14 God said to Moses, “I AM WHO I AM”; and...

Do you know who you are?

Do you know who you are?

I'll say it... these are crazy times! Worse, they are perilous times. Everyone is talking at everyone else and no one...

26 Comments

    • Crystal, thanks for coming by! I went and linked up on yours today. I’m going to spend some time visiting at your blog!!

      Reply
  1. Hi Kate,

    So glad I linked up behind you at Michelle’s blog…Such wisdom…learning to surrender and give my emotions to God because I have done the other three and it isn’t pretty…added your post to my buffer to be tweeted…Nice to meet you!

    Reply
    • Dolly, thanks so much for coming by for a visit! I’m always excited to meet new friends. I’m off to check out your blog. Blessings to you.

      Reply
  2. Wow…this is so true! I found myself relating to store, stir, and stuff! Your illustrations are spot-on, too. Thanks for your wise words today. 🙂

    Reply
    • Thanks, Sherry. I think that we all have done our share of storing, stirring and stuffing! Praise God that He desires to set us free! Thanks for coming by.

      Reply
    • AMEN, Emily! Amen.

      Reply
  3. 🙂

    Reply
    • Love you!

      Reply
  4. As always, words of wisdom. These words are so timely; have been counseling a woman who is an emotional “freight-train” and pretty much an emotional ‘wreck’ much of the time. Hope you don’t mind me borrowing your very apt illustrations; i think they will help her; she’s a ‘storer and stirrer’. Love you dear!

    Reply
    • Sweetheart, borrow away! Anything that you find here that is useful is fair game to use however the Lord leads! Love you and miss you TONS!!

      Reply
  5. Wonderful post Kate- Allowing Him to be Lord of our emotions and reactions is so much better that the 3 S’s!(I used to be a stuffer!)Thanks for linking up with WUW, Blessings!

    Reply
    • Thanks, Katharine. And praise God that you USED TO BE a stuffer!! I love how He sets us free!

      Reply
  6. Wow. Another wonderful post from you that came exactly when I needed it. You have such a powerful way of refocusing me. Surrendering it to the Spirit. Wow. So true. Easier said than done, but worth the work. Thank you. Thank you.

    Reply
    • Tia, you are always such a delight. I’m blessed and honored that you’ve found encouragement here. Love and hugs, dear friend!

      Reply
  7. great post…I love how you broke these truths down into our choices…we do have the power of choice…who will we serve today…God or our emotions? blessing to you~

    Reply
    • Thanks for coming by, Ro! I love that the power to LIVE in those choices comes from Him!!

      Reply
  8. Great post! I am a stuffer which leads me to be an eater LOL… Praising God that He working on setting me free from that! Thanks for your dedication to your blog it is so beneficial.

    Reply
    • Thanks, sweetie! You are such a blessing to me, dear!!

      Reply
  9. I often want to ESCAPE my emotions, but God wants us to feel them and endure them and remember Truth.

    Reply
    • And not just endure them, but to allow them to be transformed as they are surrendered. Thanks for sharing.

      Reply
  10. Very interesting post. I’m ALL full of emotions for sure – so was happy to read something like that 🙂
    Thank you for linking up with me on Thankful Thursday <3

    Reply
    • Cami, it’s always a pleasure to link up with you!! Thanks for your visit!

      Reply
  11. These are great visuals, Kate. I hope I’ve moved from being one of these three, but I know I can revert in an instant to old patterns. I’m with you in trusting in Jesus for peace. Thank you for the Holy Spirit, Lord!

    Reply
    • Amen, Jacqueline, amen!

      Reply

Submit a Comment

Your email address will not be published.