Does your husband FEEL special?

So often, with the busyness of our lives, we forget the one who doesn’t really demand a lot from us.

  • Our children demand time (“Mom” becomes the word we hear most often)
  • Our laundry demands to be done
  • Meals demand to be prepared and cooked
  • Bills demand to be paid
  • Toilets demand to be cleaned

But our husbands often don’t place many demands on us. We sometimes neglect them due to the LOUD SCREAMS of the other demands in our lives.

YET they are the ones God has called us to minister to FIRST in our lives.

Then the LORD God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone; I will make him a helper suitable for him.” Gen 2:18

So how are we making sure to minister to them? How are we making sure they feel special and a priority to us?

In our home we’ve done different things over the years. I’ll share some of them here.

  • 20 minutes before Kevin comes home we clean the house the way he likes it
  • when Kevin walks in the door, we give him space to get settled in before we bombard him with US
  • when Kevin is talking to me, I try and give my undivided attention – now we’ve had to modify this because Kevin is a TALKER, and I do need to get some work done! ;) But when he has something serious to discuss, I drop what I’m doing and sit and look at him to listen.
  • make date night a PRIORITY
  • kept our bedroom a place of haven for Kevin rather than a hang out for the children
  • let the children know over and over again that Dad is the one in charge

I hope these have helped him over the years to feel special and prioritized in our home, even though he demands very little from me. I know my children see him that way, and I sure do.

What do YOU do to make your husband feel special and a priority in your life?



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  1. Kate…you’re my hero! Thanks for sharing! :)

    • Michele, you are such a treasure! Miss you, dearest!

  2. Thanks for the reminder. I really need to work on this. We’ve been together 20 years and married 16. When I lack energy and people have pulled on me all day, I figure he knows I love him. But I know how much it means to me when he does something special (ah, dishwasher’s emptied!) for me. Great advice!

  3. Thanks Kate! I get a big fat ‘F’ in this department but am a willing learner!

    • Jo Ann, the thing that is so WONDERFUL about the Lord is that He takes us WHERE WE ARE and moves us forward. So, today, make a concerted effort to do just one thing that makes your husband feel special. Not something YOU feel special doing, but something that HE will feel blessed and loved by. Praying for you right now, dear!


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