Beauty help: is it wrong?

This is a re-post from the past on beauty.

The question of “is it appropriate for a Christian woman to wear make-up” came up as a comment and I’d like to address that in a post. First, as always, I’d like to look at some scriptures.

Charm is deceitful and beauty is vain, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised. Prov 31:30 (this seems to be the theme verse for this series)

Your adornment must not be merely external—braiding the hair, and wearing gold jewelry, or putting on dresses; but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God. 1 Peter 3:3-4



In all of this, it is important to remember what true beauty comes from. It comes from a heart centered on and surrendered to God. Physical attributes of a button nose or silken skin will fade with time (and gravity). They might show beauty on the outside but when our souls are empty, even the external beauty rings hollow. We’ve all seen women who are flawless in their features but there is just something about them that we find wanting. On the other hand, other women have a depth within their eyes that draws us to them. They may not be beautiful, but they are so attractive! Their beauty comes from within – from a heart and life of purpose and and richness.

Now when we look at this verse in 1 Peter 3, is this saying that trying to do things to accentuate our beauty is wrong? Well, if THAT were the case, we would all need to take off our wedding bands and never wear dresses again! (I should say here that there ARE some believers who feel that we are not to wear gold jewelry for this reason, but they are not consistent as they DO wear dresses.) Also, I need to add that the word merely is not in the original text. Does this make a difference? Re-read the text without that word being there. What is Peter trying to say to us?


I personally do NOT believe that this passage is telling us make-up (or dying our hair or wearing nail polish or wearing earrings) is wrong. BUT I think it is important to remember that the FOCUS of our beauty, the HEART of our beauty comes from the hidden person of our heart. There is nothing wrong with adorning the outside SO LONG AS we work to adorn the part of us that really counts!

  • Abraham’s servant gave Rebekah a gold ring and gold bracelets as he sought to bring her for Isaac’s wife. (Gen 24:22-30)
  • God tells how He adorned Jerusalem (His beloved) with gold and precious jewelry and luxurious and fine clothing in Ezek. 16:9-13
  • The father of the prodigal son took gold and rich clothing to place on his son in Luke 15:22
  • The imagery of Song of Solomon is often about the adornment of fragrance and clothing and jewels as part of the romance of the bride and groom


I do think we have some questions to ask ourselves in our using outward adornments to enhance our own beauty:

  1. Are we supplanting our relationship with God with fads for defying age or beauty treatments?
  2. Are we living a life of discontentment with God’s design of our bodies?
  3. Are we never satisfied with how we look?
  4. Are we so obsessed with trying to find that perfect beauty that we make beauty into an idol in our lives?

Years ago when I lived in a discipleship household, we were encouraged to make sure and spend AT LEAST as much time with the Lord in scripture and prayer as we spent getting ready to present ourselves to the world. It was a great heart challenge for us as to where our priorities lay!

Are you putting your hope in seeking beauty that doesn’t fade? Are you looking for that in developing a heart that seeks after God?

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  1. If Peter was prohibiting ALL makeup and adornment; then one would have to conclude he was prohibiting All “dresses” or clothing. We really must read our Bibles in context. Paul, in 1st Timothy 2:9 writes: “Likewise i want women to adorn themselves…” Peter says “do not…”; Paul says, “do”…well, the rest of 1Tim.2:9 says”…to adorn themselves with proper clothing, modestly and discreetly, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly garments…”

    I could go on about the elaborate hairstyles of the worldly women in that culture and day….but the point is: it’s the inner attitude of the heart; humility, and godliness that are the emphasis here. As one preacher said to a woman when asked the question about makeup, “Well, dear, if the house needs painting, paint it!”

    • Cathy, you are cracking me up!!! But you are absolutely on the money!

  2. Excellent post Kate, and I agree comepletely with you and with Cathy. God must come first in our life, our motives must be pure. We are an example to others of how Christ is in our lives and I believe this is included, as 1 Corinthians 10:31 says:
    Therefore, whether you eat or drink, or whatever you do, do all to the glory of God. “Whatever you do, do all”. Wonderful post. Thanks Kate for the reminder, because sometimes I don’t “bother” to try do better in that area, I think mostly because I feel selfish if I do try to look better. Anyway, this was good. Have a great day!

    • Dear Correna, thanks for you sweet honesty. Thanks so much for coming by. You always bless me.

  3. Kate….what a fabulous reminder that beauty is not what’s on the outside but what is on the inside…the heart. I needed this today. Thank you. Have a blessed week friend.

    • Naomi, praise the Lord! I love how we can encourage one another…how sweet to be sisters, isn’t it!?!


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