Sometimes our family (particularly if they are unbelievers and not on the same page with your views) or friends think they are doing you a favor by setting you up with blind dates. Afterall, who DOESN’T want to be married, right? And you may not be getting any younger!
The first thing you need to come to grips with (if you haven’t so far) is that God really doesn’t need any help in bringing a spouse into your life! SHOCKER! We do not want to be like Sarai in jumping the gun and trying to force God’s hand in our lives.
“Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be released. Are you released from a wife? Do not seek a wife.” 1 Cor 7:27
Now you may have come to the place in your life where you are content to walk in God’s timing, but you may find that your relatives and friends are not so content with your unmarried state. Here is encouragement to deal with their help.
If you do not agree with dating, when others try to fix you up with someone, simply say, “No thanks!” If they push and insist, you can tell them you are always interested in meeting new friends but that you simply are not interested in dating. Period!
Of course if you do feel that dating is OK, then you would need to change your answer. But it is imperative that you never compromise and accept a blind date or get fixed up with someone who is not a solid bible-believing Christian. This is simply NOT a compromise that you should ever make, no matter who is trying to push you into it.
When they complain about your not having any prospects in the wind, you can smile and say, “God was a good enough match-maker for Eve…I think I will let HIM handle my marital prospects and create a guy just for me!” I have found that using humor to get my point across to unbelievers who think they know what is best for me keeps our relationship open but gets my point across without sounding self-righteous.
With believing friends and family, I would quote this passage from 1 Corinthians 7 and let God deal with their hearts.
The place where we need to guard OUR hearts is to be sure we don’t fall under that pressure and give in to a date with an unbeliever just to keep the peace. There are some times where it is important to compromise to keep the peace within the family, but this is NOT the time! This compromise would not be just a preference on my part it would be a compromise with the Word of God.
And remember, God knows your heart and your desires. He has the BEST for your in His heart and mind and plans. His timing may not be YOUR timing, but trust me, it is BETTER!
“Do you not know? Have you not heard? The Everlasting God, the LORD, the Creator of the ends of the earth Does not become weary or tired. His understanding is inscrutable.
“He gives strength to the weary, And to him who lacks might He increases power.
“Though youths grow weary and tired, And vigorous young men stumble badly,
“Yet those who wait for the LORD Will gain new strength; They will mount up with wings like eagles, They will run and not get tired, They will walk and not become weary.” Is 40:28-31