One thing I know about women...
We are ALWAYS comparing ourselves to one another.
We look at our lives, at our shortcomings, at our failings and we think NO ONE else is as bad as we are! Trust me, I know all about that. I have been through the gamut of “comparing ourselves to ourselves.” I deal with the insecurities of not measuring up:
- I’m not a great housekeeper
- I’m not a great cook
- I hate grocery shopping
- I get frustrated with my children
- I get irritated with my husband
- I’m a failure as a friend
- I’m a poor example in my life
- I’m overweight (or under tall, whichever)
- I struggle with hormones that make me lose my mind
- I’m selfish and lazy
The list goes on and on.
I remember, a number of years ago, looking at a pretty popular blog and being OVERWHELMED!! This blog was HUGE…there were dozens of recipes, DIY projects galore, farming help and posts, a photography section, homeschooling projects and help. That was all I saw before I got off the site with sweat breaking out on my flesh.
I could NEVER do anything like that! I had been blogging for several years at that point but my blog posts were mostly reminders to me to do my laundry and get our homeschooling done before bedtime.
My problem? I thought that every woman was able to do farming, homeschooling, gorgeous photography, and have Better Homes & Gardens homes and backyards and perfectly behaved and groomed children.
My reality? I killed plants and homeschooled in pjs and from bed sometimes; I take photos of left nostrils mostly, every room of my house is tilted and generally messy 20 hours of the day, my yard has every weed indigenous to the state of Illinois except for 1 and if my children are wearing two shoes that match when we go to church, it is a good day!
THE reality? EVERYONE deals with these kinds of things if they are honest!
Our lives go in phases. Some phases we are bookin’! Everything is in sync, we are on a roll and things are going fine. Some phases we are good if we are able to get out of bed and get meals on the table and wash the laundry the night before we need to use it. Some times our children are reading from the same book we are and sometimes we are SURE they have been demon-possessed. Sometimes we would do the Duggars proud and sometimes we are so tired from crying babies and mischievous toddlers and walking the floors all night and absent husbands that if we get to go to the toilet alone we count it a major victory for the day.
In all of this — our hope and comfort is that Jesus is still with us! He gives us the grace and the strength to carry on each day. He fills us with the power in His Spirit to live His life through our body. He gives to His beloved sleep!
So, no matter what stage of life you are in:
- single hoping for God to bring a mate
- married longing for a baby and in anguish that it is not happening
- with many young babies and toddlers feeling like you cannot think, you are so tired and needing real help in your day
- dealing with teenagers and feeling insecure and like a failure
- working through the phases of the empty nest
- dealing with the hormones of aging and CRS (can’t remember stuff)
GOD will see you through! He will never leave you or forsake you. Everyone knows how you feel! NONE of us have it together. Some of us haven’t even FOUND it all, let alone have it together.
Therefore, prepare your minds for action, keep sober in spirit, fix your hope completely on the grace to be brought to you at the revelation of Jesus Christ. 1 Peter 1:13
Be encouraged. As we continue to walk faithfully with God, resting in His truth, in the power of His Spirit, He will work in our lives to give strength, wisdom and growing the character of Jesus in our lives.
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